I’m Lovin’ It – I’m NOT a Reluctant Entertainer

Another Christmas has come and gone!

Our decorations are still up and left overs still linger,  but we have oodles of memories packed away. We shared some good laughs over some memorable family moments.

We rarely never entertain in our home.

But this year I put my big girl panties on after learning from my friend Sandy, that it’s not how big or small my home is,  it’s about enjoying the company of others.

So for the first time in years, we hosted Christmas and even had family stay the night!

I let go of the “controlling” girl inside of me……….my house was not as spotless as I would have liked, I didn’t have gourmet food served on  gorgeous platters with stunning silver and my photography was not at it’s best.

Instead we had wonderful food, served on paper plates with great company and memories.

I learned from Sandy………

“our guests are NOT coming to see our home, or expecting a perfect gourmet meal. They are coming to see us, to know us and to enjoy our company.”


I’m Lovin’ entertaining!

I highly recommend Sandy’s book to all the other reluctant entertainers out there!

Reluctant Entertainer Book








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Cheryl Sousan

A self-proclaimed neat freak, Cheryl chronicles her journey through homemaking on her blog,, where she shares recipes, tutorials, crafting and her ever-growing love for photography. This St. Louis mom juggles her passion for life, her daughters and her tiger-loving husband, all while her obsession with tidiness cleans up the trail blazed behind her. Google+


  1. You are absolutely right about entertaining! I often get caught up in having perfect food and a sparkling clean home… I need to relax and just enjoy it 🙂

  2. Looks like you had a wonderful time! And I am the same way, I have to make a conscious effort not to worry about cleaning up the dishes after a meal and spend time with my guests! But I know that is the time that will have the lasting benefit! And by the way, you look beautiful in that picture!

  3. I too am a reluctant entertainer, especially when it comes to family. I feel that I just end up getting stuck in the kitchen all night and miss everything that is going on. That is me being the control freak and trying to be perfect so I certainly have no one to blame but myself.

    My New Year’s resolution this year will be to “stress less and enjoy more – much more!”

    Happy New Year!

  4. I’m so glad you had a happy holiday, Cheryl!!

    I’m with you, I’m definitely a control freak and a very reluctant entertainer, but at the end of the day, it’s the company that matters most.

    So glad that we got to be friends this year!!

    Happy New Year!!

  5. You are such a joy to follow! I love the holidays and I have a hard time being ‘reluctant’ about entertaining. In fact, I think I love every minute of it! I love your family photos AND I love that I am not the only one with Christmas decorations still up 🙂

  6. I never entertain. My mom said even as a baby, if anyone outside family entered our house, I screamed. Even aunts and uncles. Home is MY place, I rarely welcome others in, it’s just me. The thought of having people in and feeding them terrifies me. I don’t even like when my kids have friends over. I’m just weird.

  7. Wow. I can’t believe you learned that much from me. LOL One of my highlights in 2010 was meeting you in Napa Valley and hanging out. What a gem you are, and I just know (yes!) we’ll have more fun in 2011. Thanks for the post and for being honest and real about your reluctance. You are (or were) what most women are … cuz we worry too much about “perfect.” Love you, girl! See you in a few weeks!

  8. I love entertaining! It gives me a good reason to clean house too, LOL! It looks like you all had a great time!

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  12. So glad you are discovering the joys of opening your home (and your heart) to others. Thanks for sharing your victory.


  13. Dear Cheryl. May your New Year’s Eve be joyous and safe and your new year be full of wonderful things. Thank you for hosting this every week, I look forward to another year! 🙂

  14. I love it! I love to hear when people tone it down and enjoy it! I watch family members stress way too much and with bloggers fancy-ing everything up all the time, it feels like everyone is doing it and doing it so much better. But are they truly enjoying it? Thanks for sharing your fun and I’m glad you had a great time!

  15. Cheryl, thanks so much for hosting us! It’s so fun to see everyone’s great ideas/recipes. Happy New Year. Blessings to you and your family…

  16. Love this….”But this year I put my big girl panties” !!! And, thanks for linking my cookie post! I meant to do that! 😉

  17. Love the pics of your family!

  18. My birthday is in a few weeks and Sandy’s book is on the top of my list. 2011 is the year of entertaining and lovin’ it!:) Happy New Year! Thanks again for hosting such a nice blog party!

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  21. Cheryl, I have really enjoyed following your blog! You have given me so much inspiration and really helped me build a better blog! Thanks so much! I hope you and your beautiful family have a WONDERFUL New Year!!!

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  23. I would bet my last few dollars that your guests were treated like royalty in your home and enjoyed themselves so much they hated to leave. I know I would have!

    Thanks for a wonderful year Cheryl. I look forward with much anticipation to what you have planned for all your followers in the new year. Sincere best wishes for the best of everything to come your way in 2011.

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  26. My first time linking up. Thanks for the chance to share my last handmade card of 2010 and the first of 2011! Have a very Happy New Year.

  27. Cheryl,
    It sure looks like everyone had a great time in your home, and your dining area looks so cute! What a great, liberating attitude you adopted. I definitely need to follow your lead! Thanks for the inspiration in this post, and all year long!
    I wish I had read Sandy’s book BEFORE Christmas! I need to check out her blog and buy the book!
    Happy New Year, Cheryl!

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  30. Cheryl, Bravo! Your post reminded me of a favorite writing by Erma Bombeck…”If I had my life to live over.” I read it once in awhile to remind myself of the important things. Happy New Year.

  31. My wife and I hardly ever host either. I shared this post with my wife, and we are in agreeance with Sandy, it isn’t about how big or small your home is, it’s about having a good time, and not minding a little mess. Thanks!
    Live it LOUD!

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